November 2nd, 2006
A Top’s Guide to Bondage Bottoms. 3 – Basic Psychology of Bondage.
- Introduction
- The Roles & Definitions
- Basic Psychology of Bondage
- Types of Bondage Bottoms
- Matchmaking
- Figuring Out Your Bottom
- Play Suggestions
3 – Basic Psychology of Bondage
You could probably write a book on why people are into bondage but I just want to touch on a few of the highlights. If you look up “bondage” in the dictionary, you might find definitions like “slavery” or “servitude” and indeed that’s what the word means to some people. To others, it means simply being restrained in some way. I like to think of it as “giving up some amount of control”.
So why are people drawn to bondage? Some might oversimplify and suggest those into bondage want to submit and give up control. For many, however, bondage is just a bridge to take them someplace else they want to go. It might be an occasional dash of spice in an otherwise vanilla sex life or a person’s erotic world might revolve around it. In general, bondage is liberating in some way. It allows things to happen that couldn’t otherwise happen. It’s best viewed as a tool used to enhance sexual or other forms of pleasure. There are many subtle flavors.
Copyright ©1997 Michael Nelson.
