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1. Introduction
2. The Roles & Definitions
3. Basic Psychology of Bondage
4. Types of Bondage Bottoms
5. Matchmaking
6. Figuring Out Your Bottom
7. Play Suggestions

6- Figuring Out Your Bottom
So let’s say you’ve just met a prospective bottom online or in a bar. Can you figure out which type they are? It might seem obvious to some, but in my experience a lot of players seem to gloss right over many important clues (or they’re horny enough not to care). Without even asking any questions, you can often spot a couple of the types:

1. Does the bottom seem to be mostly interested in you more than the specific play? Did he (or she) address you formally (i.e. as “Sir”)? If their world seems to revolve around you, they’re likely a Submissive Slave.
2. Does this person seem to have any obvious fetish with specific things? Did you meet him or her on Rubber Night at the bar? Do they keep mentioning a particular kind of gear or fetish? If so, they’re likely a Gear Fetishist and you’d best have what they want or keep moving.
3. Does he or she seem to like things on the intense side? Do they ride a fast motorcycle, go sky diving or otherwise live on the edge? If so, you may have an Intensity Freak on your hands.

If none of the above are obvious (and even if they are), you should start asking some easy-to-answer questions:

1. What started their interest in the scene? Look for clues in their answer. For example, if a bottom started out playing mutual bondage games as an adolescent they’re likely a Bondage Enthusiast. People change, however, so this question is just a start.
2. What attracted them to you? If it was that single-tail whip you wear on your left side, you may have an Endorphin Pig on your hands.
3. What do they think about when they masturbate? This is an especially good question for novices or those with little bondage experience. The answer should hold some strong clues. If they fantasize about being mummified and unable to even wiggle their fingers, they’re probably a Loss of Control Lover.
4. Do they read any bondage magazines or watch bondage videos? Their interest in porn can be revealing. For example, if they love Bound and Gagged or Zeus videos, they’re likely a Bondage Enthusiast.
5. What’s the one thing they crave most in a scene? This can be the hardest of these questions to answer but if you push hard enough, the answer will usually point you directly towards their main interest.

The above five questions can go a long way. All of them are easier to answer than, “Why are you into this scene?” Use these, or similar questions, to start a comfortable dialog and find out where a bottom’s coming from.
Copyright ©1997 Michael Nelson.